Look up the wiring color code for your specific vehicle. There are many online databases that have such information. This one will tell you if the OEM audio system uses a "powered" or "amplified" antenna and identify the appropriate wire in the color code.
http://www.modifiedlife.com/car-stereo-wiring-diagrams-and-car-radio-wiring-diagrams/
Aftermarket head units generally follow the CEA color code.
12V+ Constant - Yellow
12V+ Switched - Red
Ground - Black (sometimes with spade terminal)
Power antenna - Blue
Remote - Blue/White (sometimes with slide terminal)
Left Front Speaker Positive - White
Left Front Speaker Negative - White/Black
Right Front Speaker Positive - Gray
Right Front Speaker Negative - Gray/Black
Left Rear Speaker Positive - Green
Left Rear Speaker Negative - Green/Black
Right Rear Speaker Positive - Violet
Right Rear Speaker Negative - Violet/Black
If your head unit does not have a dedicated remote lead, I'd recommend using the switched or accessory lead. If you use the blue power antenna lead, it's possible that the amp will only come on when AM/FM is selected as a source. If you use the switched lead, the amp will come on when the vehicle ignition is on (or in the accessory position).